What I Think Women Want

Recently discussing individual feelings about women and how they can be, I think I came across as a bit crass in my description but it was how I felt and what I have seen in my years of living. Not all women are alike. Some will do anything to get what they want; the others have to work their backsides off to only get a piece of what would make them happy.

Men are no different, actually. They can have the same qualities as women. Women love the tall, dark and handsome men and having money along with the promises of never having a need or want unfulfilled, most women would kill for. Not me. As I write this I am thinking of how wonderful it would be to have an egg, a piece of charred toast and perhaps one piece of bacon cooked over an open fire outdoors. A man with more muscles on his body than in between his ears does nothing for me but other women swoon over them. Yet, men have needs or wants as women do. Some or most desire a beautiful and sexy looking woman. Some men want a simpler way of life, others want more. I cannot speak for all men, only the ones I have known.

Therein lies the issues of all the other women wanting him, the tall dark and handsome one, the same with a woman’s beauty and shape, all men wanting her. I have been with tall, dark and handsome. I have been with muscular men. I have had a man buy me things as a surprise…….constantly. That was what made me start to hate surprises, birthdays and Christmases. Other men gave gifts hoping to get something back. That is not me. If I am given a gift, make me something homemade. Do not buy me fancy trinkets that will only sit and gather dust. Do me a drawing whether in charcoal or with crayons. Take a piece of wood and make me a wooden spoon. And if you bring me flowers, pick some daisies off the side of the road because they are my all-time favorite. Then I am good. Simple things like that will win my admiration and my heart.

I have had people wanting me to join a dating site. I asked what I would put down for what I wanted. What they saw in me was nothing I saw in myself. I told them he would have to love dogs, did not mind cooking, was familiar with a vacuum cleaner or broom….and as I went on, my friends told me I was not looking for a man, I needed a wife. So that ended their pushing me to join a dating site. Silly girls. Did they not realize that men can cook, men do their own housework. What has this world come to.

Some men are as good at housekeeping as some women and some women are good at doing outside chores as men are. I also believe men want more than the love of a woman who thinks they are handsome. They also want to be heard, understood and accepted for how they are. And don’t I just love it when a man can open himself up, to share his wants, wishes and his dreams, even his bad times. Most do not dare open up afraid of looking silly or being made fun of. There is so much wasted time in our lives. Too many people are afraid to reach out for happiness, to take that chance to genuinely live.

This is what I believe.

Contrary to what the world often portrays, it is not money, looks, or flashy gestures that draw me in. It is presence, depth, and sincerity. I am most drawn to a man who wants to understand my heart. I want someone who listens not just to my words, but to the silences in between. Someone who does not rush to fix everything, but sits with me in my storms and holds space for my emotions, showing me that I am not alone.

Emotional support is one of the deepest forms of affection a woman desires. When she feels heard and seen in her vulnerability, when she knows she can come undone in front of you and still feel safe, that is when real love begins to bloom. She is not looking for perfection. She is searching for presence. She is looking for the kind of love that calms her chaos, not adds to it.

But it is not just emotional closeness that matters… physical affection holds weight too. A warm embrace, a hand held gently, a kiss placed on the forehead, these simple gestures speak volumes. They remind her that she is desired, that she is not just a mind to connect with, but a soul and body to cherish. In moments of touch, she feels grounded, valued, and deeply connected.

True intimacy for a woman goes beyond the physical. It is rooted in being understood. She wants a partner who looks past the surface and sees the woman within. The one with dreams she is afraid to say aloud, the one with scars from battles she has quietly survived, the one who still hopes, still believes, still longs to be known.

When a man makes the effort to know her fully, not just admire her beauty, but understand her essence, it creates a love that feels sacred. A deep emotional bond is what sustains love over time.

Women are drawn to men who make them feel emotionally safe where their vulnerability is met with compassion, not criticism. That safety becomes the soil where love can truly grow.

A man who respects her inner world, who listens with his heart and responds with gentleness, becomes unforgettable. So if you ever ask, “What do women really want?” They want to be held, not just in your arms, but in your thoughts, your efforts, and your intentions.

They are attracted to men who show up. Not just once in a while, but consistently. Who makes them feel heard, cherished, and understood. Not as an obligation, but as a privilege. Because in the end, real love is not about grand declarations; it’s about the quiet, steady presence of someone who truly sees you. And if you find a man like that, be sure to give back what he gives you. Never take each other for granted.